Anthony was the most wonderful surprise because he came so
easily. We were so excited to have a sibling for Charlie, and when he was born
my cheeks hurt from grinning. “Two boys” is all I kept saying. We didn’t know
what we were having, and to have a brother for Charlie was a dream come
true!
AJ was huge compared to Charlie. A pound heavier, an inch
longer, and rather than working his way up to a full blown cry he transitioned
immediately to the loudest of wails. He learned to get what he wanted quickly,
and what he wanted was to be fed every 2 hrs for 9 months. After he refused a
bottle for 13 hrs for my mom at 9 months, he was busted. I would comfort him,
but not feed him in the night after that, which he decided wasn’t worth waking
for. But that was when we knew what we were in for with AJ. This child knows
perseverance.
AJ was a great easy baby. Unless he didn’t like something.
And then he learned how to let you know very young. When AJ has reached his
limit of anything, you know it. And he wants everyone around to know it too. He
has been carried out of mass stiff as a board before. He has laid down on the
grocery store floor in protest more than once. Anthony is a firecracker.
He was born ready to go. He jumps up in the morning and put
his clothes on immediately. Shoes too! I don’t think they come off until the
end of the day. He likes to know things ahead of time and be prepared. Like
when he was about to change preK classrooms and he wanted me to teach him how
to read and tie his shoes before preK began.
At the same time he is so laid back. He is a willing
participant in most any scheme Charlie imagines. Charlie knows just how to get
him excited and give him enough to pull him in. AJ is very good natured. If
someone needs to step up and give up something because there isn’t enough, AJ
is the first to give something over to Charlie. He loves his big brother very
much, but he definitely knows how to hold his own against Charlie, an important
skill for a younger brother.
AJ does things on his own terms, and he knows what he likes
and doesn’t like. Mostly he loves sports. Playing them. Watching them. Acting
them out with characters. Scores are very important to AJ. He assumes they are
very important to everyone else, which is why he updates me on the score of the
real or fake game every single time it changes.
AJ likes to high five with his forehead to your hand,
exploding upward. I think that sums him up well. When he was one, we used to
say we were a little bruised up from his strong forms of affection J AJ is extremely
athletic and tough. AJ is really naturally talented and having a sports loving
dad and big brother don’t hurt. While Charlie started basketball at 5 and had
to adjust to a bigger ball and 8 ft goal, AJ has been dribbling and playing on
that size goal for a year or more.
AJ rarely cries from pain. He is crazy fast and can tackle
with the best of them. He can send Charlie to his knees crying, intentionally
or unintentionally, and then give me the look like “why is he crying again?”
AJ is competitive and believes in people following the
rules. AJ loves board games and picked up things like Sorry and Monopoly Jr
when he was barely four. AJ does not like losing, but that’s okay because he
doesn’t lose that often. AJ takes his job to keep Charlie honest seriously.
AJ loves the wildcats. In fact, AJ wants to be a wildcat. He
wants to play football for K-state and he knows he can’t do that until he is
18. Which brings us to what AJ doesn’t like-being little. Everyday he laments
the fact that he is not 18. To the point of crying in bed. We tried to help him
have a more attainable goal by counting down to football season. And counting
down to Halloween when he would dress up like a football player. AJ is so
serious about being a wildcat football player, that when Craig exercises AJ
will join him. He will do the entire workout series from beginning to end,
because he thinks it will help him reach his goal.
AJ is legalistic. He knows that Charlie is two years older
than him, and while he doesn’t love that, he accepts it. Until he realized
Charlie was turning 7 and he wouldn’t be 5 for another month. Which was
absolutely the most unfair thing in the entire world. At least once a day, when
it crossed his mind, we would relive the pity party. He totally thinks he is
one of the big kids and has asked me for playdates with Charlie’s classmates as
well as various sports figures.
AJ doesn’t worry much, but when he does it is things like “what
if another team picks me that isn’t k-state and then I will have to ‘reverse;
k-state?!” There is nothing more tragic. Except maybe playing for the Jayhawks.
AJ does not like the Jayhawks. Unlike Charlie who will try to root for KU if
they aren’t playing a team he likes better only because he feels everyone is
ganging up on me in this house, AJ is clear as can be he will never under any
circumstances root for KU.
AJ doesn’t mind marching to the beat of his own drum, and
Craig and I have no influence in some areas. Like when we went to watch the
Chiefs played the Seahawks and AJ learned that Tyler Lockett played for the
Seahawks. While Craig and Charlie rooted for both teams, AJ could be heard
loudly booing the Chiefs in their own stadium.
AJ is super smart and could walk around quoting math
problems all day, but he’d rather watch a highlight video than have a bedtime
story any day. AJ is affectionate, but he is less likely to have calm snuggle
time. He is too busy for that. For a long time we’d have to put in a show and
sneak some love, but thankfully that has changed!
AJ is his own kid. He is a dream come true. He will always
be my baby, but it seems he is growing at twice the speed his brother did. AJ
may have some strong dislikes, but when he decides he wants to do something he
is all in. He went from not likely mass to saying the rosary in the adoration
chapel and then attending weekday mass with me upon request. There is no one
I’d rather have in my corner. He has the biggest capacity to love and persevere.
He is shooting for the stars, and we have no doubt he will accomplish anything
he puts his mind to! Even if that means the NFL!
1 comment:
Such true words about kids. They are our everything. I've 2 girls, and you know I thank God every minute of my life that I was brave enough to get pregnant. Doctors warned me not to do this, as I'm having a terrible lack of immunodeficiency... Jesus is merciful to us.
Blessings,
Amanda
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