God Continues to Write As We Discern Adoption

I am going to write this quick takes style :) I continue to try and stay quiet on the adoption/foster to adopt situation to give my husband a break, but I have great interest and curiosity about the process. A few things have popped up, and I can't help but wonder if they are from God. Dh doesn't mind if I learn some info and filter to him later, so I have begun!

  1. At the same time as we decided to stop ttc and look into adoption, my good friend Alive in Hope, started doing the same. It is awesome to discern together and see how God is already writing her amazing story! And it shows that God had this in mind when we first met because I am in a unique situation to provide resources and insight to a situation that recently came up. Love it!
  2. Our archdiocesan newspaper just posted a story since we started discerning about these nuns that facilitate adoptions. I think it is the same agency a friend of a friend used, and so I am reaching out to this friend to hear more of her story. 
  3. Remember how I told you all I am surrounded by infertility? There are woman that suffer in my immediate family, my extended family including my in laws, my high school friends, college friends, church friends, and more. Every group in my life has these woman. It certainly has made the road less lonely. I also have awesome examples in my life that have survived IF and either had children, adopted children, or came to peace and determined they were not called to adoption. Lots of strong amazing examples.  It helps, in this phase, to have access to people that have adopted, fostered, fostered to adopt, or are in the process of waiting to be matched (as well as those that discerned it wasn't for them). And so I have a bit of the picture going in, and lots of woman to tap into. A local friend did foster to adopt. In fact, as I looked up the website, there was her cute family's photo! I am meeting with her next week to hear more about their story. Also my out of town cousin did the same and fosters lots of children. In fact, I hopped on my cousin's facebook to ask her a question and saw this as her most recent post-ripped my heart out. http://vimeo.com/73172036 She and I have been communicating by fb and she is very open to answering any questions I have. I had two local friends who were waiting to be matched for adoptions. One is still waiting, while another dropped off the list so that is really important to understand that perspective too. I am also grateful for the many many adoption blogs I am looking at in a new light. Please remind me if you are going through this process so I can be sure to follow you closely!
  4. You know how my little sister is pregnant? Well her guy is a social worker and it just so happens he works at the only place in my state with the contract to adopt out children whose families' rights are terminated. And it turns out that my county is given the preference (likely due to location, the agency is here). So I can ask him questions anytime. He doesn't work on that side of things, but is very familiar. I am wondering, do you think God works through bumper stickers? lol. I do! Dh and I were with the kids going through the taco bell drive thru on 3/21 when I saw this in front of me: "Be a Foster Parent" and it listed the agencies phone number. I couldn't stop laughing. 
  5. And, while I am painfully aware that my oldest sister's kids even this week might be available for adoption (please pray for her court date Thursday), who knows? Maybe God is giving us this situation to help us be more sympathetic to what families on the other side of things are going through. I am sure she would be quite angry if we adopted and didn't take her kids if she can't raise them, but my husband has been quite clear how he doesn't feel that is good for us, and I support that.
  6. You won't believe this. Okay you totally will. I walked into my church's Women's Day of Reflection late last Saturday and found another woman close to my age who was trying to find the same retreat. We spoke for a minute, but she hung back in the cry room with her five month old while I went into the main church. After mass, I saw her heading back out the wrong way, so I grabbed her to follow the woman with name tags :) We visited as we walked to the social room where the talks were being held. I introduced myself and you know what happened next? She asked if I had a blog! Ladies, she recognized me by my picture and has been a reader for 4 or 5 years! Instant connection! Let's just say it was difficult to stop our conversation and focus on the retreat after that (even though the talks were excellent!). It's a good thing she didn't mind me sitting with her and her friend because I was NOT ready to end the conversation. Thankfully, the feeling seemed mutual, and we talked another 30 min post conference and exchanged contact information. I already feel like I have known her for years, despite her not having a blog. Her five month old son is her miracle baby post major surgery by Hilgers for endometriosis. God is so good! So glad I was running late and met you B! B is also a CASA advocate and represents what is in the best interest of children in court for abuse cases on a volunteer basis. Her first case resulted in the rights being terminated and she just happened to have a friend who was trying to adopt. Her supervisor told her to make the call, and now that family is wrapping up the adoption! I told her to keep me on speed dial for her current case :) And B's friend, A, that she was meeting up with at the talk nodded understandingly when I mentioned I had heard repeatedly that Catholic Charities is great, but doesn't do a lot of volume with adoptions. A had a friend that went with them, said the same thing. She ended up adopting through the Sisters. The same Sisters the newspaper just wrote about. Did I mention B used my good friend as her doula? So I called the friend and let her know I connected with B (which she loved, said she wanted to introduce us because so much in common) and then she was excited to hear everything. It turns out I didn't know she just completed the CASA training herself.  So maybe something will come from this route? Crazy small world regardless!
  7. Also, last week a good friend of mine finally connected with me again over the phone after ages, only to find out that they haven't resolved their infertility issues and they have decided to adopt. She is further along in the process than me and had shared about the two agencies they are exploring-Catholic Charities and the Sisters. I shared what I knew about Catholic Charities, introduced her to the Catholic infertility and adoption blogs (including mine), as well as the yahoo discussion board and facebook page. Infertility sucks, but going through it together helps, right ladies?! So welcome, S! And so excited I have someone local and close to me to explore adoption with!
I really didn't have time to write this (seriously, I wrote "right" the first time! that is def me in a hurry!), so I hope it isn't too all over the place! But then, that's a bit how I roll. If I waited until blog posts were perfect or I had time...there would be no blog posts!


Sasha said...

You're so awesome! I totally love you! So glad we're friends!! :-)
By the way, I do have a blog, but I have largely ignored it for the past year, not knowing really what to do with it. Maybe you've inspired me to do some more with it. ;-)

prayerfuljourney said...

Good luck as you discern adoption. My dh and I just finished our home study and are now officially in the waiting period. We went this time with a bigger agency that markets us and reaches out to potential birth mothers. We used Cath. Charit.ies and they did not connect us at all. Actually, we were able to use the home study from them to help us complete the new one we just did and we kind of found out that what they did was not very complete. If you want more info on our experiences with them, email me at prayerfuljourney7@gmail.com.

Anyways, this new adoption journey has been very different in many ways. We have someone advocating for us now! So, Lord willing, we will meet our forever baby. As always, if it's God's will.

stacym88 said...

Wow! So much going on for you guys. I will keep you in my prayers for sure. Like you said when I saw you so briefly the other day, there really is a lot going on and I do feel like without Faith Group meetings I don't get to hear much of it. I guess the best thing right now is to keep the prayers flowing and to know God is keeping us close!

E said...

Yay!! May the process be a peaceful one!

All in His Perfect Timing said...

This is exciting news! It is crazy, once you are thinking about pursuing a different way to build your family, how many signs from God are there! I am so glad you have so many people and resources in your life to give you answers! That is sometimes the hardest part.

Stephanie @ Blessed to Be said...

Such an exciting post! And so many great connections you've made!! I can't wait to see where this journey takes you. My husband and I are attending an adoption conference, Empowered to Connect, in St. Louis this weekend, so hopefully I'll have lots of great adoption info to share after! We are done with our homestudy and are pretty much in the waiting phase! We need to take a newborn parenting class before we're technically ready to adopt, but our agency said they could work with us if a baby came along before we could take the class. Very exciting times! And for you too! Praying! :)