1.16.2014

The Crazy Family Post

If you have been following you know that I have three sisters, two of which had their fiancee/husbands die in the last two years (youngest and oldest sister). If you go back a year further, you may know that was when my oldest sister's oldest daughter's dad passed away (her oldest is 21 year old, she got pregnant at 20 and they never married).

So, here is the update. The youngest sister is pregnant. Unwed, not dating anyone, but married. Now that being said, I am happy for her. I am. She never thought she could have kids because of all the family fertility issues, especially mine. We suspect the infect is worse in her and I always worried about her. She never got pregnant in her ten years dating Tom and she wasn't really using anything because, again, she assumed she couldn't. So I am glad she is able to. The baby had a heartbeat that was strong and on time when she was scanned last week, so very grateful for that. She is on progesterone, going to my ob/gyn, lots of early intervention and care, he even put her on Zith. Yay for all that! There are, will be, lots of challenges. She doesn't make a ton for the school district so right now she lives at home with my parents, who have been raising kids/grandkids their whole life. They are 65. She had to go off antidepressants. So far so good. She has mixed emotions having a baby and the dad not being Tom. But she is joyful. The dad is her best friend. He has not really left her side since Tom died about a year and a half ago. He has always cared for her greatly and he cares about the baby. She does have a full time job and insurance, thankfully. She also is doing better emotionally. Around Sept I started seeing amazing improvement in her. So that is sort of a family stressor. She is having some pretty severe morning sickness, but other than that all is well. We found this out on Christmas.

My oldest sister has been suspected of drug use for some time. She is being tested through social services. It moved from regular to random to supervised. We received info through friends she was tampering with the urine to falsify results. We were told she was positive for pot on one test, but they let her go the next day when the jail lost power and then court was scheduled for January. However, this month before the court date they had an emergency hearing. They had found her pos for meth and tampering. They removed the kids to her mother in law, who moved in the house with them again (she had moved out-the living situation wasn't working and she wasn't renewing the lease). Janelle moved out and is staying with her best friend (who has breast cancer). Janelle had 8 days to do some tasks. I guess they may go back to her after 8 days, it depends. If she is positive again it is min 1 yr jail time. I think she is doing some pleading and may go to rehab. I hope. During the 8 days, it doesn't bode well she got arrested. Evidently she missed some court date in all this drama (for what I have no idea) and so  they took her in. Her car is now impounded. It's a big mess really. I just also found out that one friend she took into their home last year (who was being abused and sister was trying to help her get on her feet so she could keep her daughter; she already had her oldest removed to her parents), well that girl was sleeping with her husband. That was the only one of many girls that was personal. I can't imagine what a blow that was. I know she can't take much more. We were worried about her being suicidal last week given all that happened, but I think she is better. There is a lot of dynamics and I don't know if there is anyone good in our family (including us) that can take the kids right now and that is extremely difficult to face. Court is tomorrow. Judge is very strict, good because this sister can be very manipulative. Just praying that whatever will bring about long term positive change is what will happen. Please join me in praying.

5 comments:

Stephanie @ Blessed to Be said...

Wow. I'm so sorry. Prayers for you and your family!

prayerfuljourney said...

That is a lot of drama...I hope your sister gets the help she needs...and thank God for your parents who are able to help. I have drama in my family too (who doesn't) but mine involves divorce and two wicked ex sister in laws. Man, they just do not give up! Praying for all of us who have family drama and people in our lives who are very hard to forgive.

Rebecca said...

Just so much :(. Praying for you all!

Amazing Life said...

Praying!

WheelbarrowRider said...

Thanks everyone. They are at the hearing now...